Reflections and Resolutions

This is the time of year many of us become introspective. The beginning of a new year brings a sense of anticipation and hope for what could be. It is a clean slate and a chance to hit the “reset” or even the “redo” button. We promise ourselves this year will be different.

Then came 2020.

Promises made at the beginning of 2020 were pushed aside before the end of the first quarter. Like most New Year’s resolutions, “life” happened, and our individual hopes and dreams were put on the back burner. As we navigated a world dominated by a virus, we were changed in ways none of us could have imagined.  We have suffered great losses – loved ones who succumbed to Covid, devastating job losses and the great void of  isolation from our extended circle of family and friends. We now fully appreciate the value of our health care workers, grocery store employees, delivery truck drivers, teachers and restaurant workers.  We have come to appreciate in a new way, the value of health, safety, education, and family.

There will be a sense of joy and a collective sigh of relief around the world when we welcome 2021. While we are eager to say goodbye to this difficult and challenging year, it may be worthwhile to stop and reflect – for just a moment.  As we anxiously await a vaccine and imagine life getting back to normal, I have a question. Is there any thing from 2020 that you want to take with you into 2021 and beyond?

“I have a question. Is there anything from 2020 that you want to take with you into 2021 and beyond?”

Despite the increased levels of fear, frustration, and loss, many found peace in the solitude of quarantine and others a renewed faith in the stillness of the holidays. One person told me that without the normal hustle and bustle of the holidays this year, he was able to recognize the true meaning of Christmas. A parent shared that it was a “gift” to work from home while her children attended school virtually.  “It was hard at times, but I am so grateful for the time with my family.”  An executive coaching client who typically travelled for work most of the year and suddenly was grounded discovered how much he loved being with his family.  “I don’t want to go back to that life,” he told me.

Personally, I am grateful for all that 2020 taught me about resilience, patience, vulnerability, and simple joy.  In a year of challenge there was also cause to celebrate. A college graduation, a son’s wedding, a parent’s recovery from Covid, another son’s first home, a beloved family member’s courageous (and successful!) battle with breast cancer and a Christmas miracle kidney transplant for my long ailing sister-in-law.

As I reflect on the year that was, I am grateful.  As I set intentions and resolutions for 2021, my focus will be less on personal goals and more on finding, appreciating and celebrating those moments that we often overlook or take for granted.